It’s a topic that everyone seems to be interested in, ingrained in the human condition.
Is it possible to ever really, truly connect with someone on an emotional level?
I think we all try to, to some degree or another.
Except – first don’t we need to understand our own emotions before we can begin to explain them, or share them with others?
This is where I am right now.
The realization that I don’t really know what emotion(s) I have.
I’m certainly not emotionless. But I don’t know how to explain them, or how to really share them for that matter! This is likely where I’ve been for most of my life. Between being an introvert by nature, and learning to walk on eggshells to try to keep the peace at home (the nurture part), I have a tendency to stuff everything down into those lint-filled pockets of my inner self.
I realize that I am not unique in this way. Most of us, as children, were taught to suppress our emotions, especially those outwardly messy ones like fear and even pain.
When someone asks, “How are you?” Do you respond truthfully?
Are you really, “Fine, thanks.” ?
Does anyone really want to know how truly miserable (or even truly elated) you are really feeling?
Most of us, myself included, find security in the “Fine.” It’s the gray area of ordinariness that we find ourselves in on a daily basis.
Being “fine” is the benchmark of our existence.
I even catch myself telling my own children, “You’re fine.”, when they are clearly not fine.
I wish I had some tidy way to tie up these thoughts…
We all walk the line of “fine” every single day. We wrap ourselves up in that cozy blanket of “fine” and we go about our lives wondering how to truly feel connected to any of it.
Is it the “just fine” that keeps us separate?
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How important are emotional connections to you? Do you feel like you are successful in making them? Or do you tend to tell everyone you are “just fine”, even when you are not? Are we wrong in telling are children that they are “just fine” too? Do the social networks help us to connect…or are we just finding our digital “just fine”?
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